AITAH for considering divorce because my wife told her friends I use a p*nis sleeve during sex?
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I (36M) have been married to my wife (34M) for 8 years. We have 3 children, and my wife is a stay at home mom. Our sex life has always been great, but last year, my wife wanted me to try on a p*nis sleeve, which actually improved our sex life ever more, because it hit her in the right areas. She said it’s the best sex she’s ever had in her life, which made me even happier.
A week ago, my friend (35M) asked me about the sleeve because he’s never tried it before, and wanted to know what it was like. I was surprised he knew about this, and asked him how did he know. He said his wife told him about it. My wife and his wife are in the same friend group.
I was shocked that my wife had told shared such a personal detail with her friends, and I asked her about it. When I asked her about it, she confessed that she had shared to her friend group, and that she shouldn’t have, but she just wanted to talk about why our sex life has become amazing recently. She apologized a lot, but I ignored her, and told her I needed some time to process this.
It’s been a week and I have been trying to ignore her as much as possible, I’m sleeping in a different room. She cooks dinner every day, but I just go out and eat, because I have no mood to eat at home. There is a tense atmosphere at home, and my wife has apologized a lot, but I’ve just been trying to ignore her as much as possible.
I don’t think this can be fixed through therapy or a simple apology. I think this is a massive betrayal of my trust, it’s just shocking to me that my wife would share such a personal detail with her entire friend group. I have been seriously considering the possibility of a divorce. I know we have 3 children, but I don’t know how I’ll ever reconcile with my wife ever again. At this moment, I’d rather just pay child support and alimony than be in her presence, but I know feelings can change.
AITAH? Can this situation even be fixed? How do I even trust my wife anymore