I lost a guy friend (and have lost other guy friends) because I wouldn’t date him.

I’m really upset.

So we’ve been friends for a year and a half. It was NEVER romantic, and we were really close, we texted and talked nearly every day.

Out of nowhere he decided; and told me, that “obviously you don’t care about me enough to date me”, “you never even considered dating me”, “you go on tinder even when I’m right here ready to date you”, and “you’re friend zoning me and never even considered we should date”.

He blocked me after I tried to explain myself (which I shouldn’t HAVE to!).

I’m upset and as a woman who’s made quite a few guy friends, I’m sad and angry. I’m sad the friendship ended and I’m angry that a guy thinks they’re entitled to date/fuck me even when I said at the start I wasn’t interested.

I genuinely cared about him. Obviously he didn’t care enough about me to be my friend, even when I NEVER led him on even for a second.

I had a guy friend when I was 19 and in college who, for example, knew about my sexual trauma. Of course I was oblivious and didn’t realize he liked me. I also had vaginismus at the time and when I told him i finally was able to have sex with someone without it hurting, and was so happy and proud, he dumped me as a friend and slut shamed me.

This is just so irritating and it’s making me miserable.