AITA for leaving after my husband recorded me during an argument?

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I (26f) and my husband (28m) have a 1yo daughter May. I am currently pregnant with our second child. I do not think I am in the wrong but I can also tell that this pregnancy is affecting my emotional state so maybe I cannot see clearly and it really isn't a big deal?

Long story short: my husband has a habit of calling me angry or annoyed when I am not. Which pisses me off. Example: My husband sits on a couch watching F1 and I say: "OK, it's time for May to take a bath. If you want to watch the race till the end it's fine but it is pretty late so May and I are going upstairs now." I wasn't angry, annoyed or trying to be passive agressive I was just letting him know that this time we would not wait "just a few minutes" until the race is over. He immediately hugged our daughter and went: "See how angry mommy is? Don't worry baby I will protect you." Another: One day I asked him if he would unload dishwasher while I folded some laundry. His reaction: "Jesus why are you so annoyed already?"

So what happened today is so stupid I can hardly believe it escalated how it did. I tried to send our robot vacuum to a different room but May closed the door. I said: "Oh you didn't have to close the door." I tried to guide the vacuum in the right direction but it was too late and it went back to charging station. I sighed and started looking for my phone while muttering that I don't know where I put it. At this point my husband decided to join in: "Why do you always get angry over little things?" I told him I wasn't angry and to stop calling me that when I clearly wasn't. It turned into a discussion where he laughed at me and kept repeating that I have to have "a positive energy" while I started to get angry. I told him I am tired of him always acting as if I was unstable and telling me to stop yelling at May when I just firmly state a boundary (I never hit her and very rarely yell at her.). I played over the examples stated above to which he said: "You are such an actress I will record you." and pointed his phone camera at me. It was ridiculous and he clearly did so just to make fun of me so I left the room while he laughed and talked to May about how mommy would rather hide than see how she acts. I came back about 2 minutes later. He still had phone in his hand but he does most of the day so I didn't think much of it. I started cleaning the kitchen while calmly continuing in the discussion. Then I noticed that his phone was in a weird angle so I asked him if he was really recording me. He started laughing and confirmed that he was.

At this point I broke down in tears. I didn't say or do anything I should be ashamed of during his "recording" but I just felt so humiliated and disrespected. He told me that I have no sense of humor to which I replied it wasn't funny and left him with May to sit in my car for a while. He called after me to just calm down and come back. He thinks I overreacted. So did i?

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