Why TF would any straight man agree to an open marriage?

This is partially going to be a debate I’m having with my best guy friend right now.

I’m a very progressive, sexually liberated woman. My husband and I both had experiences before we met each other. That’s a time in life I cherish and appreciate. My point is that, while I am in a monogamous marriage, I am not naive or close minded.

A lot of our friends are poly and I have seen it work out when it’s done in a healthy way. They usually enter into the relationship with that dynamic and have boundaries upfront that make sense.

To me, that feels different than “opening a marriage.” I just had lunch with one of my guy friends who told me he wants to try this. I asked what he thought he would get out of this, and he told me he felt like both him and his wife would benefit from sexual experiences outside their marriage. He started talking about how he’s “excited” for them to both get on the apps because they got together before Tinder was really a thing. Their rule is no mutual friends or coworkers so this is really the most plausible avenue for him to find someone. They also both only want casual sex- no outside relationships.

My question… Am I cynical or is he delusional?

Statistically, women already have more matches than men on apps and there are far more “women” bots and scammers. It’s basic math that his wife will get more matches.

Even setting that reality aside, who do you think is going to have more luck? The woman who explains she only wants casual sex or the man?

When I was younger and on Tinder, a married man was an immediate “no.” I didn’t care if they were open. I had enough matches without a potential mess. I just cannot imagine this going well for him.

To be clear, this was HIS idea. He’s sitting next to me now so I thought I’d put this to Reddit. He claims nothing will hurt his feelings.

And yes, we are two beers deep on a Wednesday afternoon so this is a bit silly. I’m on maternity leave and he’s on funemployment.

Before anyone comes at us, we’ve been platonic friends for 15 years. That’s not the reason he told me. Lol.

Edit from my friend: Point taken.

Edit from me: Are yall ok?