AITAH for separating from my wife for drastically changing her appearance?

My wife and I have been married for 10 years and we have 3 kids.

During lockups she went down this TikTok rabbit hole and became a crunchy health nut.

She changed completely from when I met her. She refuses to eat anything that's not healthy. She she doesn't even eat for an entire day every couple days. She lost 30+ pounds that way.

She also began lifting and she's very muscular now. She has a man's shoulders.

To top it all off, she got a breast reduction. She didn't even have big breasts but she hated how saggy they were and spent $10,000 dollars on getting a totally unnecessary breast reduction.

Everybody told me that it was her body and I had no say in what she wanted to look like.

I'm not attracted to her.She looks nothing like the woman I married. I tried dealing with it for years but it was too much. I couldn't even recognize her.

When I asked for a divorce she began bawling. She said I was a shallow jerk and she wished she never met me. It was so hurtful because she didn't even care about our three beautiful kids.

Most of my friends have reassured me that I wasn't wrong. However a few of them who were friends with my wife have dropped me and call me an AH every time they see me. They've even gone so far as to leave hate comments on my social media posts. AITAH?