AITAH for wanting my daughter to accept my wife as her mom?

This is a throwaway. I know a lot of you will judge me. But I think I deserve benefit of the doubt. My (38m) wife, Megan and I were high school sweethearts. We both got married really young like at the age of 21. We have a daughter, Lisa (17F). When Lisa was 9-10, we had marriage problems. And I did something, I am not proud of but I cheated on Megan with a family friend of ours. After we got divorced, I marred Alice (36f). The problem is with my daughter. I get that divorce had an effect on her. I tried my best to make amends with her. I said sorry over and over again but she was stubborn and blamed me for the divorce. I accepted that. I took her to family therapy and it was a dead end. She won't accept Alice. On the other hand, Alice has been nothing but patient towards her.

Whenever Alice would try to talk to her or to form a bond she would brush it off. There was one time she screamed at Alice by saying that she will never accept a homewrecker like her as her mom. She was 14 at that time so she decided she wanted to live with Megan full time. Alice was hurt by this. She loved her like her own daughter but my daughter just hurts her even more. My ex got the custody arranged and because Lisa was old enough the judge granted my ex the primary custody. I only see Lisa once a week. Even then she is locked up in her room. Megan moved on and started dating my ex-friend Rony. I have seen my daughter with Rony. My daughter calls him dad. It hurts but I cannot do anything. I have tried my best so that Lisa accepts Alice as her mom too.

I think it is unfair that she accepts Rony as her stepdad but cannot accept Alice. Recently, I gave her an ultimatum that either she accepts Lisa as her mom or I will cut off her allowance. She screamed at me and spoke profanities about how I ruined her life. I have always prioritized Alice over our family. Which isn't true. I gave her everything. I only ask one thing in return that she respects my wife. But she still thinks Alice as my mistress and told me mistresses don't deserve the same respect as mothers. I think it is hypocritical of her to think that because Alice has tried everything to make her feel comfortable. Now my ex is mad and said that she will take me to court again if I try to harass her daughter. I tried to speak to my daughter but she probably blocked me. I did send her allowance last week but she returned it with a note that she doesn't take handouts.